So Hard to Say Good-bye-Boyz II Men
As I get older my mortality becomes more and more apparent through the loss of friends and loved ones. The amount of funerals I have attended recently has begun to increase as rapidly as the days, months, and years in my life seem to be going by. It is still as tough to attend a funeral now as it was to attend the first funeral I ever went to. Finding strength in grieving for the people I care about is difficult, and to lose someone that was an important part of my life is very tough to endure. But our tears should be a reminder that we are still alive. Death is not as tough for the person in the casket, as it is for the grieving friends and family left behind. But we are the lucky ones, they are the one’s without life, as we still have what they might envy, the opportunity to take another breath.
In death, we should recognize our own mortality and realize the transient state of our existence, the frailty of life, and the inevitability of each of our fates. We should celebrate life as if death was only a breath away. The life they had lived that has led to the death that we now grieve served a purpose. So I guess the real question is, are we sad for them or sad for ourselves? In response to this question I have arranged a collection of sayings and quotations about death that might make you pause and evaluate the life you are living before we eventually make our final exit.
Just Breathe-Pearl Jam
“If death meant just leaving the stage long enough to change costume and come back as a new character…Would you slow down? Or speed up?” –Chuck Palahniuk
“Life lives, life dies, life laughs life cries, life gives up and life tries, but life looks different through everyone’s eyes.”
“As a well spent day brings happy sleep, so a life well spent brings a happy death.” -Leonardo DaVinci
“Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy.” –Eskimo proverb
“One man can survive everything nowadays, except death, and live down anything, except a good reputation.” –Oscar Wilde
“On a large enough time line, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero” -Chuck Palahniuk
“A life without adversity, is a life never lived.”
“When the game is over, the king and the pawn go into the same box”-Italian proverb
“All men die, not all men truly live” says a braided-haired, plaid skirt clad Mel Gibson in his 1995 epic love story chronicling the life of Scottish rebel William Wallace who reluctantly lead a revenge sparked rebellion against the English crown. What we can take from his encouraging battlefield proclamation is that we all have a choice to make in how we live our lives. The fear of failure, of rejection, of defeat, and of embarrassment should have no bearing upon the actions we take to pursue our goals. No matter what happens, how much we achieve or how often we fail, we will all eventually cease to have the opportunity to do anything at all. So in the face of death, live your life as best as you can.
“If the death of a loved one causes us to refocus our lives and live them better, then even in death they have made our lives more fulfilled” –Anthony Heard
One Sweet Day-Mariah Carrey w/ Boyz II Men