Why is it that people are so helpless now? I think it all stems from the fact that kids are no longer allowed to be physically disciplined. I know I have advocated this before, but it is true, kids need to be spanked. In some countries, New Zealand and Sweden for example, you can’t even hit your kid in the privacy of your own house. In your own house! If I grew up in one of these countries, I would be dead by now. You need to learn limits and boundaries. And those limits have physical boundaries. In a super market, in a van outside the store, on a bus, or in the privacy of your own home, if you talk back, act up, or just generally deserve a good whacking your parents should be allowed to give you one. Hell, in some places it was common practice for a complete stranger to whack you if you were acting up. At my grandmother’s church, if I was doing something I wasn’t supposed to be doing and she or my grandfather weren’t around, one of the other parishioners would take it upon themselves to smack me. It wasn’t a stranger wailing on me for no reason, just a swift smack to remind me that just because my grandparents weren’t watching, others were. It is the whole, “it takes a village…” mentality. And although it would hurt, it was a temporary thing and it made me aware of my actions. It also taught me a valuable lesson, that if I can’t control myself, others would do it for me. Nowadays if you even raise your voice at a child, you are a terrible person. And we wonder why kids are so sensitive today. Toughen up girls. We need to learn that although it is good to solve our problems using our brains and our words, sometimes a situation calls for an act of fisticuffs to bring the problem to a conclusion. I for one think that fighting is not okay. But if the situation calls for it, then you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do.
Opponents against physical punishment will make the seemingly convincing argument that violence begets violence. If you spank your child you are teaching them that violence is okay. No, no, no. I didn’t say beat the shit out of your child. But a spanking is okay. It shows them that there is a physical response to bad behavior. And at its conclusion, they will be okay. Kids don’t know how to deal with physicality today because they have never been taught the proper venue for it or response to it. They want to hurt themselves or others as a response because they have never had to deal with these emotions before. Instead of you their parent teaching them what it is, they learn from movies, songs, and peers. They think that life is supposed to be fair and everyone should like them. And when something happens that threatens their fairytale existence, they are so confused they don’t know what to do. News flash, everyone won’t like you in life. People won’t be nice to you, girls you like won’t date you, boys will be mean to you if you’re ugly, kids will make fun of you if you are different. If you’re fat, people will poke fun at you, if you have a big nose, kids will make fun of it. I am not saying that is how it should be, but that is life. Is it fair? No. But that is how is works. To shelter kids from the harshness of reality is asinine. You are setting them up to fail later in life. They need to understand that there is indeed adversity out there, and you need to arm them with the tools to combat it. The mental and physical tools. Because if you don’t, that is when they seek out just the physical tools to strike back at the people they think have wronged them. We live in an unfair society. It doesn’t always have a Disney movie ending. The bad guys aren’t usually caught or even if they are, they usually are not held responsible for their crimes. The strong pick on he weak, the best and brightest don’t always succeed, and yes, cheaters win. But you can at least prepare your kids to be tougher than they are.
Have you ever read some of the books that are passing for literature nowadays? Let’s look at 2 similar genre books. Harry Potter is a kid who is mentally and verbally abused his whole life only to find out on his 11th birthday that he is of wizard birth and is a gifted and talented wizard himself. Through out the series he must overcome adversity from both the wizard and human world. He continues to be bullied, but is given the tools and guidance to overcome it. He doesn’t always get what he wants and people are hurt in the process but he proves triumphant because he is able to deal with what life throws him through the support of friends and family, his wits, and sometimes physical violence. Fictitious, yes. Fantasy, absolutely. But it contains strong moral and social messages about being tough and how life does not always work out the way we hope it will. It also shows kids that life sometimes kicks you in the face, and all you can do is to get up, brush yourself off, and keep on going. Let’s look at another popular series, Twilight. In Twilight, this plain ordinary girl falls in lust with a vampire who happens to be a teenager, sparkles when he’s in the sun, and is a vegetarian. Already this book insults my intelligence. As a being that is over a century old he should have no interest in the mundane existence of a morose 17-year old child. But not only does she ensnare this benign vampire, but also has a boy who is a werewolf fall in love with her too. The two fight over her, and when she feels abandoned, contemplates and then tries to carry out her own suicide. Showing us that when life gets you down, end it. Not only that, but the main male character also tries to commit suicide because he is so depressed with his life. What the hell are we teaching our youth? When life is tough, jump ship? That is exactly what the problem is. We teach kids to think they are princes and princesses and that the world will cater to them, and then when it doesn’t they freak out and do all kinds of drastic things. It is scary that this is how we are raising our kids. And for those of you out there saying no, and shaking your heads, I say to you then that, that is how reality TV, Facebook, and pseudo-celebrities are raising your kids for you, since you are not aware this is happening.
It is sad to see how weak Americans have become. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Sometimes you kick ass and other times you get your ass kicked. Today’s youth needs to learn how to deal with that, instead of sensationalizing every small victory or set back. Learn to roll with the punches so to speak. We survived the Great Depression, both World Wars, the tumultuous culture during the civil rights movement, and Bush’s presidency. We are a tough people. We should be able to endure a little ridicule and adversity in our lives.